It’s strange to think that my initial time here is almost up. The plan was that I would originally stay for longer than 3 months and then leave school for a month before the holidays. As in traditional African style, plans don’t stay the same and now due to various circumstances, we are going to take a 2 month school holiday for June and July and then we will return back to school at the beginning of August, making up the missed month by extending the school day into the afternoon. This means I will be returning to the UK in less than 2 weeks-it’s crazy to think that’s quite soon and I’m glad that my goodbyes won’t be an permanent, but only temporary.
School has been slightly crazy these last two weeks. I’m now responsible for 2 classes, and the idea is that I split my time between teaching the 2, with teaching assistants teaching them the rest of the time. At the moment, I seem to have spent most of my time in class 3, and almost abandoning class 2, apart from doing the planning. This week I intend to spend more time in class 2 teaching them. I also have to learn to let go of control if things are not done in the way that I would have wanted them to be done. For me that’s hard. I always knew that I was a control freak, but I’m realising just how much I am. This is especially true at lunchtime. It was becoming the case that I was doing everything at lunchtime and nobody else did anything. So the other day I was told that I was not allowed to do anything and leave it to the others. It took all my willpower to stay where I was sitting and not go and get involved or go and tell the others what to do. When they asked me questions, I was not allowed to give them an answer, and had to tell them to do what they thought. Man, it was hard! Maybe in this, I’m learning that I need to let go of having control and let others do things their way sometimes.
When something comes to an end, it’s always good to look back on what you have learnt. I don’t know if there’s been some major life revelation whilst I’ve been away, but also there is a feeling that my time in Tanzania is not coming to an end, but merely beginning. I guess I’ve learnt that I often rely far too much on other people and that my worth is not in what other people think of me, but my true worth is in my identity in God. I still find that hard and often look down on myself when I mess up. This is also a letting go of control thing and learning that I need to let go of what I can’t control. Also what has happened in the past has happened. Whether it be for good or for bad, every circumstance is used to mould who we are and our lives. I now feel that I can look back on this last year, and beyond and realise that my God is so much bigger than me, and all the stuff that happened, happened for a reason. There is still a long way to go, but I beginning to learn how to handle and deal with the hurt that I felt during that time. My time here has been, and will continue to be, the beginnings of a healing process in which I am beginning to relearn skills that I began to believe I didn’t have/had lost.
Even though it is my time in Tanzania that is coming to an end, it is becoming more and more real to me that it is my time in Canterbury that is coming to a more significant end. Leaving the UK was hard, but I know that in returning it will probably be harder, knowing that goodbyes will be more meaningful and in leaving Canterbury for as long as I am here, at least. Being here has made me think more about ‘home’. What is home, and what makes home? For me, home used to be about the place, where I felt settled and comfortable. I think there still is an element in that, but in realising that I will be moving away from the comfortable and normal, I’m realising that home for me now is about relationships. My ultimate home isn’t on this earth; it’s in heaven, but for the time being I need to make this my home.
I know that I will settle in Kigoma, but it’s different. I don’t know if it is home like home is in the UK. Most people now know that I call Canterbury home (sorry Mum and Dad!), but the realisation that I will very soon be packing up and leaving that home is setting in. Grantham will always be home as well for me, but in a different way. Home there is where my family is, and where I grew up. Canterbury is where I think I did most of my growing up. I learnt what it means to truly be accepted as part of a group of friends and where I grew in my faith. I used to say that Grantham was where my past was, Canterbury was my present. I’m now realising that Canterbury is also going to be my past. Canterbury has been such a significant part of my life, and I imagine will continue to be so. It’s just strange to think that I am now the one that is moving on, after I’ve found it so hard every time it has been other people. It’s so easy to hold onto the past. Something that I always seem to do, and know that I probably shouldn’t do quite as much as I do. The past is important, it shapes us into who we are in the present and who we will be in the future. However, it is also just as important to look to the future without holding onto the past, I’m learning there is an excitement in not knowing what’s around the corner (even though this means not having control!).